Which Foo Fighters song is about Kurt Cobain?

2 June 2023, 18:00

Nirvana's Dave Grohl, Kurt Cobain and Krist Novselic in 1991
Nirvana's Dave Grohl, Kurt Cobain and Krist Novselic in 1991. Picture: Paul Bergen/Redferns/Getty

As Foo Foo Fighters' tribute album But Here We Are is released, we delve into the track Dave Grohl admits writing about his friend and Nirvana bandmate Kurt Cobain.

This week saw Foo Fighters release their 11th studio album, which is dedicated to their late drummer Taylor Hawkins and Dave Grohl's late mother Virgina Grohl.

Sadly, it's not the first time the Foos frontman Dave Groh has been touched the tragedy of losing a much-loved band member.

Since Kurt Cobain tragically took his own life on 5 April 1994, his music and lyrics have continued to touch fans across the world.

While Grohl has opened up a lot more about the loss of his Nirvana bandmate as time has gone on, he hasn't always been so comfortable discussing the tragedy.

While it wouldn't be unreasonable to think the Foos frontman may have tackled this loss in his music, there's only one song he directly attributes to being about Kurt Cobain... and it might not be what you think.

Some fans assume that My Hero from Foo Fighters' 1997 The Colour and the Shape album is about the late grunge icon, but it's credited about being about the "common man".

Foo Fighters - My Hero

Releasing a statement in 2008 when Republican candidate John McCain used the track without their permission, the band wrote: “The saddest thing about this is that ‘My Hero’ was written as a celebration of the common man and his extraordinary potential. To have it appropriated without our knowledge and used in a manner that perverts the original sentiment of the lyric just tarnishes the song.”

However it's actually on Disc 2 of Foo Fighters' 2005 album In Your Honor that the closest thing to 'a Kurt Cobain tribute' can be found.

Friend of a Friend was an acoustic track penned by Grohl in 1990- just weeks after he'd moved to Seattle to join Nirvana.

Written in Kurt's Olympia apartment on his acoustic guitar, the track describes Grohl's first impressions of the frontman and bassist Krist Novelselic... and paints a pretty bleak picture of the band's early days.

Foo Fighters - Friend Of A Friend

The song captures the act of Grohl finding Cobain's guitar, with the lyrics: "He plays an old guitar/With a coin found by the phone/It was his friends guitar/That he played".

It also hints at Kurt's early drinking habit, with the lines: "He thinks he drinks too much/'Cause when he tells his two best friends/'I think I drink too much'/No-one speaks".

Kurt Cobain recording in the Netherlands, November 1991
Kurt Cobain recording in the Netherlands, November 1991. Picture: Michel Linssen/Redferns/Getty Images

View some of the haunting lyrics to Friend of a Friend below:

He's never been in love
But he knows just what love is
He said nevermind
And no-one speaks

- Dave Grohl - Friend of a Friend

The song was first recorded in secret in 1990, before being released on Grohl's Pocketwatch cassette album under his Late! psuedonym two years later.

Despite being recorded again for a BBC Evening session in 1997, it wasn't until the release of In Your Honour where it was revisited for the acoustic disc of the LP that Grohl was forced to open up about its origins.

Dave Grohl performing on stage at Pukkelpop Festival, Hasselt, Belgium, 25th August 1995
Dave Grohl performing on stage at Pukkelpop Festival, Hasselt, Belgium, 25th August 1995. Picture: Gie Knaeps/Getty Images

When quizzed about the track, Grohl told Q Magazine: "I'd just moved in with Kurt. I didn't know anybody. I had a drum set packed in one box and flew up there. I would stay up till the sun came up and sleep all day.

"Olympia, Washington, is fucking depressing enough and I was living with this person that I didn't know. But he had a four-track so I wrote songs: Marigold and Friend Of A Friend. It was an observation of Kurt and Krist and I."

Asked if he ever played the song to Kurt, he simply responded: "No. I don't think I did. Probably not."

Written years before Kurt's untimely death, and more of an "observation," than a tribute, Friend of a Friend just happens to capture a moment in time, representing the early and uncertain days of Grohl joining the band.

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